Not being too tough

To Punish or Not To Punish

A lot of parents worry about this side of upbringing.
How to make your kid understand the danger of his/her actions? Is it necessary to be strict and tough? If so, how to deal with fragile child psychology?
All these questions are quite reasonable, as all parents want their child to be the person who understands clearly what bad and good things are.
Screaming and crying, when your kid is at risk, is pretty normal and even natural response. Anyway you would do your best to turn your child’s attention to you and to protect him/her from the danger, be it when the kid runs near the road, plays close to the pool or open flame.
Usually, when a situation like this happens, kids start to cry, and you surely try to apologize. However, you shouldn’t blame yourself in being too tough because crying is concerned to be the natural reaction to the fear in your own voice. So to set all the fears at rest use the methods unlike apologizing: hug your dear child and say “I know that you’re upset. But I was scared because what you did was unsafe. Promise me you’ll never do it again.” Keep in mind that punishing is not a necessary way of dealing with such situations as children have likely learnt the lesson.
Nevertheless, at times when you become “too tough” regularly in case of some insignificant offences, there may appear the rebounding result. This means that children stop take their parents’ reactions seriously. If you realize that you’re overreacting, take a deep breath, try to calm down, and then answer your kid’s behavior.  
Generally, the best way to make your child understand something is speaking firmly with a low voice. Try not to exaggerate things and not to focus your speech on the child, but on his/her behavior. Moreover, you should give no encouragement to your child’s tears. If the kid thrown anything, ask him/her to pick it up; if the kid grabs a toy from another child, ask him/her to give it back. It will surely be useful for better understanding of the following results. Frankly speaking, such consistency is the best way for building an effective discipline.